10 Ways to cope with the stress of divorce
Divorce is one of life’s most challenging transitions. It can feel overwhelming, exhausting, and at times, never-ending. While every experience is unique, there are gentle ways to support yourself as you move through this difficult process. There are ten things that may help you cope with the stress of divorce in this blog. They’re drawn from both professional insight from our Therapists, and personal experience.
1. Take it one day – or one hour – at a time
When life feels unbearable, looking too far ahead can add to the weight. Allow yourself to focus on the present moment, taking things in small, manageable steps. Sometimes getting through the next hour is enough.
2. Set clear boundaries with your ex-partner
Boundaries are vital for protecting your mental health. Decide what is acceptable for you, whether that’s around communication, co-parenting, or finances, and stick to it as much as possible. Consistency can bring a sense of stability in uncertain times.
3. Build your inner circle of support
Think of your relationships like circles around you. Closest to you are two or three people you trust completely, the ones you can be open and honest with. They’re your anchors. Further out are friends and family who still care, but don’t need to be as involved right now. It’s okay to decide who you want nearest to you at this time.
A counsellor or Therapist could form part of your closest support network during your divorce process. They’re there to listen without judgement, to help you untangle the overwhelming emotions, and to remind you that what you’re feeling is normal.
4. Be gentle with your emotions
Sadness, anger, guilt, relief, guilt and more – all of these can arise, often in quick succession. Try not to judge your feelings or push them away. They are part of the process of healing and letting go.
5. Allow moments of joy
Even in the hardest times, it is okay to laugh, to smile, to enjoy something simple. These moments all help to build up your resilience. You may latch on to phrases which people have mentioned to you and this can be helpful. “The clouds are starting to part” stook with one of us throughout our own divorce process.
6. Cherish time with your children
If you have children, they can be a source of grounding and perspective. Focus on creating small, positive moments together. Not everything has to be so very big to be meaningful.
7. Look after your body
Stress takes a physical toll. Try to maintain regular sleep, eat nourishing and healthy meals, and move your body, even if this is a simple ten minute walk in fresh air. These small acts of self-care build strength for the emotional journey.
8. Limit conflict where possible
Not every battle is worth fighting. Where you can, seek resolution through calm conversation, mediation, or simply choosing not to engage in hostility. Protecting your peace matters.
9. Seek professional support if needed
Whether through counselling, coaching, or mediation, professional guidance can offer clarity and a safe space to process what you’re going through.
10. Trust that you are moving forward
The road is not linear, and setbacks are part of healing. But step by step, day by day, you are moving towards a new chapter in your life. One which really can be even better than the one that came before it.
Divorce may feel like the end, but it is also the beginning of something new. With patience, boundaries, and the right support, you can navigate the storm and rediscover moments of calm, growth, and hope.
Get in touch if we could support your divorce journey.