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Counselling isn't only for people experiencing difficulty or distress.
Do you ever feel curious about yourself? When others look at you, what is it they see? Ever wondered: who am I, really, and how did I become this person? Perhaps you have a sense of that 'becoming' and are exploring the potential for change in your life.

Such questions often arise in the minds of reflective individuals - and often remain unanswered; who has the time to address them seriously?

At krysallis we believe that this is time well spent. Self discovery can no longer be dismissed as self indulgence. Life is faster, more demanding of our flexibility and resourcefulness every day. We are called on to be endlessly adaptable, endlessly responsive as we perform a sometimes bewildering variety of roles via an expanding range of media. When we feel on top of this it can be exciting and stimulating but all too often the sense is of being dragged along by events, passengers in our own lives, overwhelmed by the demands on attention and decision-making.

Learning more about ourselves is vital if we are to hold on to what we really need and value while being unafraid to let go of what we have outgrown or been handed  by someone else.  If we are to have any chance of understanding and appreciating others, of making sense of the complexity and sheer diversity of the relationships that now people all our lives, we must arrive at a deeper understanding of who we are. All therapists know this because personal development is the foundation of counsellor training. Greater self- awareness will enhance relationships and allow you to feel more securely grounded in an increasingly unstable world.

i find that fear - some of which is inevitable, and of course very powerful, can become such an everyday part of our experience that it's like breathing - something you do without being conscious or aware. ultimately this can lead to suffering - blaming compensating, controlling, manipulatig and avoiding ...

... as part of experiencing phenomena with clients, i have started to discover that mindfulness practices are great neutralizers of fear based, or negative, unconscious,  self-limiting states...

... so i'm going to suggest a path here, from the mindless to the mindful, and some ways to introduce a state of awareness which helps people to recognise and deal with fear and anything else that interferes with positive living...

... more bloggin' on this later.... for now, here's a few easy steps to get free and receptive with the mind and body

1. sit comfortably, drop your shoulders, get in a restful and open state
2. loosen your jaw, and allow any tensions to fade away
3. soften your gaze by just seeing what is in your visual field without looking at anything else. this is a great way to get present in the moment, still the mind, get in tune with yourself
4. take some nice easy breaths, and rest in space for a few minutes

Stay tuned for updates...